Expectations!

I realized a number of years ago that I am the one responsible for my happiness. I often say that if I don't expect anything from anyone I will avoid being hurt or disappointed. We are all human and we deal with human nature on a regular basis. If I choose to be a woman of integrity than that is my choice, if I choose to pursue excellence in my life rather than mediocrity that is my choice. I should not expect a pat on the back because I have made that choice.  Neither should I be critical of others who choose to be mediocre and go with the status quo. However beware! In one's pursuit of excellence- going against the status quo may not be appreciated. Oh well if I am responsible for my happiness than I have nothing to worry about because that won't bother me. Hmmmm!! Am I making sense. Bottom line God knows my heart. He knows my motivations and my desires better than I know myself. After all he created me. By the way, when I take responsibility for my happiness it takes a lot of pressure off my friends and loved ones. That doesn't mean I don't want roses from my husband; or a hug from my children; or an occasional pat on the back from my co-workers; instead of expecting it, it is a nice surprise! Self-actualization can't beat it!